The challenges we face with others can put us into survival mode. Some of us mask our true feelings to keep peace. We don't show up fully. Some people simply dump their issues on others. Either way is because we don't want to get hurt again.
The challenges we face should force us to do emotional
inventory and look within to examine what’s going on. Stuff comes up because it's time to take care of our soul and heal what's inside.
Unidentified and unspoken pain from needs to be resolved, no longer buried and neglected. The longer we devise ways to ignore the pain in our true identity, the more difficult it is to find out who we are. Remaining in survival mode slowly eats away at our true identity.
Unidentified and unspoken pain from needs to be resolved, no longer buried and neglected. The longer we devise ways to ignore the pain in our true identity, the more difficult it is to find out who we are. Remaining in survival mode slowly eats away at our true identity.
Emotional scars reach the deepest essence of who we are. The emotional centers within the brain have no sense of time, so emotions can’t
be ignored. The effects from trauma linger, even if we think we’re
doing fine. Further emotional neglect eventually causes dis-order in the physical house of our bodies.
For much of my life I tried to earn significance. I didn’t realize I had an underlying belief
that I was not as important as others. In survival mode, I made up for my value by working hard in the art
of hair design for 25 years and being a rescuer
in an abusive and heartbreaking marriage. I finally came to the end of myself
wondering; what have I done wrong to
deserve this heartache and burnout? At 38 years old, I learned that significance
is not about what I can do to earn love, but it was more about whose eyes I am significant in. I became free to be me because my new reality was that I belonged to Someone
whose love is perfect and I was worth His love. My pain finally met the very Redeemer of it.
Surely you desire truth in the innermost being; You teach me wisdom in the inmost place. Psalm 51:6
Surely you desire truth in the innermost being; You teach me wisdom in the inmost place. Psalm 51:6
We were all worthy to be loved perfectly, but imperfect
parents in a world of partial truths, people can’t give what they themselves don’t have. As children, we can become an extension of the incomplete parent which is
what happened in my case, with both parents. Sadly, it took many years for me to discover true significance that changed my thinking for good. It happened when my essence was
revived back to life through a new truth that my value was worth
dying for. Sacrificial love was not something I knew on the receiving end. Wow, talk about awakening!!
We can’t live fully without
relationships. Unhealthy relationships make us feel violated. Healthy
relationships make us feel validated. We receive from them, and we give because of them. It's how the truth of our worthiness is made manifest. Nothing beats being loved and known for who we really
are.
People in need of love may take from others or give too much to others, falling into either of these dysfunctions:
1. Takers manipulate others, causing their givers to serve them. Takers are emotional identity thieves. They are like young children, trying to get their way.
2. Givers often find a measure of significance when they are needed. Those who give too much also have unmet needs of childhood of not feeling valued.
Human love is imperfect, not all-knowing. They may contain partial-truths in their own perception of love and identity. There are partial-truths in Religion, Government, Philosophy and Education, but nothing brings Divine love to life until you experience a relationship with very Author of Perfect Love. He's the only One who know everything about you! Wisdom and Perfect love adds fullness, where information and institution will always leave us partial. Information is different than transformation.
Your emotional centers in your brain don’t recognize
time, but they do recognize significance. When you allow your very essence to be touched by Perfect love, you’ll know the truth, which sets you free to be you. The spiritual brings to
life what your natural being was deprived
of.
And so it is written: The first man Adam was made a living soul, the
last man was made a quickening Spirit. 1 Corinthians 15:45 KJV
Jesus is referred to as the last Adam. His sacrificial love, still present in Spirit today, restores your significance to God. Do you realize what that means? Satan tried to
nullify Jesus’s true identity by using selfish pride and arrogance to put Jesus
in the grave. In the same way he uses people to nullify your identity. He’ll
try to put you in the grave before you realize your identity too. Jesus proved
that His true identity and significance could not be hidden, because He knew to
Whom He belonged. You can have this full assurance inside of you!
We have significance when we know to whom we belong. Don’t let the selfish pride of mankind keep you from realizing that you can be God’s chosen and adopted child. Let the true Shepherd quicken and foster your soul into significance. Come out of hiding, be loved and live the real you in fullness!
If you would like help on your journey to significance, I’d be happy to come alongside you. For more about me, and my services, visit: http://www.recoveredessence.com/home.html
© Christine Wilson Is Your True Significance Hiding? 2016
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