The Driving Force for Love

What would you say is the driving force in humanity that affects the universe? I believe that force is love. We inherently yearn to experience its influence from the moment we came into existence because it’s in the blueprint of our DNA. Like a flower that naturally blooms, we were created to be known and understood for who we really are. We were predestined to come to maturity and express love to others. The seed of our true identity is in us, but not all love grows it to fullness. We have the ability to connect to the Source of infinite love for nourishment and guidance; but our spirits, souls and bodies play important roles in discovering this love.

Perfect love has the ability to defy physical laws. Think of Jesus. His perfectly sacrificial love destroyed death itself, evidenced when He rose again. What a gift He gave to humanity! He made a way for God’s love to be accessed through our hearts and poured into our physical beings. But this requires an intimate relationship to grow in the ways of Perfect Love. We too can access spiritual laws; but we must learn how to be one with God’s heart.

In this imperfect and fallen world, what we consider to be love comes from our unique understanding and experiences of it. We adapted without knowing the ways of Perfect love. We also learned fear. A lack of trusting connections can cause us to reject the very thing our hearts and souls still crave.

Relational trauma is the enemy of connection. As a result, we hide our insecurities from people. We may assume Perfect Love is not possible, even though we still yearn for it. As a result, we naturally hide behind our coping vices, or deny our need for love if our personal view of love translates to pain or fear. Vulnerability becomes a threat so we subconsciously hide the painful void and allow some counterfeit to take the place of love. This counterfeit may feel similar to the euphoria of love, but leads to self-focus, since it lacks the healthy exchange experienced in healthy relationships.

It’s so easy to distract ourselves from our pain. We live in a culture of instant quick fixes and limiting relationships, be it with people, food, substances, amusement, entertainment, money and status. These may be fun for a time but they can’t make us whole and complete. It can actually keep us from more lasting and eternal love. The way it works is; our brain gets tricked by subtle bursts of dopamine, that over time we actually get addicted to more of it. These never truly satisfy the void left inside to know Perfect Love.

Just because we haven’t experienced Perfect Love, doesn’t negate its power or effect it may still have on us. One occurrence can change our perspective forever. I’ve researched the consistencies in people’s experiences with near death and most commonly, people speak of a love that made everything beautiful and perfect. It was their experience of heaven that changed their whole perspective on the meaning of life here on earth.

Imagine starting from the day you were born without fear. Imagine having the security, the nurture and wisdom to turn to. Perhaps your choices would have been made differently. Love would have a grounding, satisfying and maturing effect on you. There would be no need to compare, compete or control others. In fact, there would be love to give away because mature love secures our identity.

When there is an absence of love, we naturally want a sense of control to protect us from insecurity or being discovered as such. Over time these will take us outside of a perfect spiritual order and eventually can cause pain to oneself and others.

It takes some courage or even desperation to take an honest look to uncover the true state of the spiritual self. What fears are woven in your present foundation? Is it time to be honest with yourself, with others and God? Are you ready to explore what really makes your heart tick? Only you can open the door of your heart to allow His Perfect love in.